Posted by Aphrodite on November 27, 2004, at 10:17:46
In reply to Re: The phone » Aphrodite, posted by Toph on November 27, 2004, at 9:05:33
You raise a very valid point and concern. However, one of the things I used to never do is call him or respond to his phone calls. At one point, when I was having a very hard time, he said that considering I don't have meds or adequate social support and refuse to use his phone support between sessions, we were at an impasse and it was against his treatment ethics and philosophy to continue to let me discuss trauma, do EMDR, or anything else "uncovering." He said I could, under those circumstances, come for general support, but no hard work until I was able to receive help in some form. So, I being Ms. Little Independent all my life, began by allowing phone support which has, for the most part, been tremendously helpful once I went back into discussing trauma. It makes both of us feel safer about the process, and it helps me feel more stable between sessions. He has also commented on the fact that I disclose more on the phone than I do in his office, and he uses the phone when he feels like he needs more information about something difficult for me to discuss. I guess it's because I'm not inhibited about the tears falling down my face or trying to read his body language.
I've recently shut down again (my choice) until I get on meds and allow for some social support. He thinks that all of these things in place will help the trauma work go more smoothly.
Of course, my cyncial, non-trusting side says I've just become a nice part-time job for him since I pay him for any phone call over 15 minutes! ;)
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