Posted by Daisym on October 22, 2004, at 2:39:12
In reply to Re: It's raining, inside and out (trigger potential), posted by antigua on October 21, 2004, at 8:46:07
To answer your question, I *think* most of this unsettledness is the 12 year old. She is the one who can't handle anger and she is the one who had to care for her baby sister. So, angry husband and needy sister this week combine to bring out the worst in her.
I think you are wise to protect yourself from your sister right now. You've just been through a horrible trauma yourself and you don't need to get pushed near that edge again right now. Perhaps she does want to talk about stuff, but you have to be ready too. My therapist wants me to put limits up around my sister for myself. He thinks she makes me revert to giving away all of myself in order to keep her happy. So we are working on those self-preservation skills. Mostly I just need permission to be selfish around all of this for a while.
I read what you wrote about having an intense transference with your therapist right now. I'm surprised that still happens after 11 years. Do you know where it is coming from? And is it a good one (I need you) or a bad one, (you weren't there for me)?
Thanks for checking in. I'm still borrowing that strength, can you feel me pulling it through the universe?
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