Posted by Lonely on September 26, 2004, at 15:19:06
In reply to Re: contact after termination(a bit long..) » lonelygal, posted by Pfinstegg on September 26, 2004, at 12:59:57
There are a LOT of control issues that go on in therapy. And a lot of it has to do with the therapist trying to control the patient. Therapists have anger and resentments of their own. I've been the victim of those projections.
It might be good to try some different T's even if it's in defensive mode.
Here is the URL for the list that I found helpful, and, by the way, I'm not in NY nor do I know anything at all about this therapist and I'm not recommending her, nor am I opposed to her either. I just thought the list mentioned a few things that I wanted and didn't usually get.
http://www.a-tech.com/joyce/index.html
Scroll down the page about half way to "About Psychotherapy" and click on "List of 10: Why and How Psychotherapy Works"
Then ask your own therapist why she/he failed so miserably. OR, ask a new therapist how she/he is going to help you reach these goals (whichever items fit for you).
Finally, if things still aren't going well, I would (and have done so) just plain tell the T that she-he is greatly lacking in competence and should perhaps consider a different career.
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