Posted by pantt on September 6, 2004, at 11:09:50
In reply to Re: My therapist says I make him feel helpless, posted by Susan47 on September 4, 2004, at 23:03:38
Thanks for adding your impression it agrees with mine. I know he's angry and also passive aggressive. We've discussed it but it doesn't really change things. I think he realizes he is passive aggresive more than that he is being overtly angry aka snarling at me sometimes. We became friends over the years and I think it is difficult to become patient/therapist again after that happens.
I'm not willing to give him up. We're like an old married couple squabbling with each other all the time. Which reminds me of Ann Landers famous question, are you better off with or without him? And I am better off with him. I say that without hesitation.
There is a possibility of seeing someone else while still having contact with him but the times I tried that I ended up spending a lot of time discussing each therapist with the other and also feeling caught in a tug of war between them and I didn't like that feeling at all.
I really feel old today like I've waited too long and tried and failed too many times. Maybe this is all there is and I just don't have the grace to settle for it instead of wanting more help still. I know I've had more therapy in my lifetime than most people here and I still feel like I haven't even begun to live in the real world whatever that is.
> Hi Pantt, I hope you don't mind me jumping into the conversation here ... (if you do you can quit reading I guess:))
> To me it sounds like your therapist is feeling pretty helpless about his ability to help you change things; maybe he's even angry, I don't know. Do therapists get angry?
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