Posted by Pantt on September 2, 2004, at 18:10:12
In reply to Re: My therapist says I make him feel helpless, posted by Miss Honeychurch on September 1, 2004, at 15:59:24
> It is up to your T to realize he is not helping you and refer you on to someone who he thinks can. He should have no qualms about this if he has your best interest at heart.
I get the idea that he thinks I'm hopeless. And that I should be grateful that he's keeping me company. He says the kind of treatment I need doesn't exist. But other times he says I should find a therapist closer to where I live but that he doesn't know anyone over here.
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> You mention you don't think you could leave him. Assuming you have a co-payment, do you think it is worth your money and time to come talk to him about football and weather? Not to talk about what is bothering you? Do you feel like you may be just treading water?He never charged me the co-payment and he rarely even bothers to file the insurance anymore. I feel more like I'm walking underwater than treading it.
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> Does he talk to you about treatment goals? My T and I go over them once a month as well as discuss any progress or setbacks. This I feel is very important and lets me know he is taking our therapy very seriously. Do you feel like he has a plan of treatment for you? Can you ask him?No. I used to have treatment plans because the insurance required it but they were done by a social worker I never met. I saw them because I asked to see my records. Truthfully I was very upset by them because I felt he had violated my privacy by discussing my case with someone else without my permission. Now when I ask for a treatment plan he tells me to write my own treatment plan.
I guess the good things about him are that we have years of shared history. And he does come through in emergencies-when I was dealing with family crises and deaths etc. The thought of even sitting down and going through an intake interview is enough to keep me from trying someone else.
I've seen other therapists too before and during the time I've known him without any success so maybe it's just not going to work for me.
Maybe I should just forget it and run off and join a commune or something ( Oh wait I tried that too and it didn't help either ;)Maybe this is just as good as it gets.
But it annoys me that he says I MAKE him feel anything. What happened to the old therapy speak rule about being responsible for your own feelings? And he also says he's afraid for me and that makes me feel like he does still care about me and maybe he is just withdrawing because it's hard to watch my life becoming smaller and smaller.
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