Posted by fires on August 19, 2004, at 21:36:25
In reply to Re: return to therapy, posted by JenStar on August 19, 2004, at 20:45:39
> Fires,
> if you keep banning people from talking to you (two already, correct?) you're soon going to have no one with whom to converse! (Are you going to ban ME, now, for questioning you?)Then so be it
> It seems to me that you don't really know how to get along with people through the written word. You tend to misinterpret things, find fault where none was intended, and-- for one who claims to hate being assigned motivations and blame -- are VERY quick to assign motives to others!
Maybe your correct, but that doesn't make me feel any less attacked.
> I agree with Susan: Reading betw. the lines, you DON'T seem very open to therapy. So many ground rules -- coupled with your other posts -- makes the written "fires" seem rigid, inflexible, and emotionally unavailable.
Things aren't always what they seem.
> It's hard to 'write nice' to you -- you disagree with so much. What do you really want here? There is an underlying tone here of "touchy feeling" helping hands on Babble (maybe not in my message, obviously, but a general trend) -- and it seems that you don't like such things. Are you trying to reach out? Do you consider yourself to be a considerate person? Do you have friends in 'real life?' Are you trying to make friends on Babble? Do you realize that you're going about it the wrong way?Your Q.: "what do I really want here?" is extremely offensive to me. I now am telling you that I don't want you to reply to any of my posts. I'll ignore your other extremely offensive and rhetorical questions above.
> I'm interested in your response. If Dr. Bob bans me...so be it. I'll read the answers...and come back (hopefully in a better mood!) in a few (?) weeks.If Dr. Bob doesn't ban you then there is no justice on this group. I never came close to attacking anyone the way you just attacked me. Putting your attacks in the form of questions just doesn't work.
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> I have toyed with the idea of whether you are really "you" or a prankster jerking us all around and seeing how we react to such an inflammatory person!
OK. Next time you might try not calling me an "inflammatory person." That's very offensive to my sensibilities.
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> I don't think Susan was trying to insult you. She was asking a question, and couched it in tender language to insulate you from pain.
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Thanks for your opinion, but I disagree. I think she used the same rhetorical Q. technique that you just demonstrated.>
> > > Please take this with a grain of salt, Fires, but then again ... it sounds like some part of you really doesn't want to see a therapist. What do you think? I'm really saying this gently, please take it that way. I'm probably all wrong, right?<<Please. After you attack me, you say, "please take this with a grain of salt" then you proceed with the rhetorical questions again -- after I've clearly explained why they are so offensive.
To anyone:
I'm not familiar with how to go about "reporting" verbal abuse here. Do I need to report it, or does Dr. Bob read every post?Please let me know. :(
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