Posted by fires on August 19, 2004, at 16:43:07
In reply to Re: return to therapy/Questions » fires, posted by underthecs on August 19, 2004, at 15:00:49
> What if, in introducing herself to you, she calls you by your first name before you present The Rules?
I'll decide if and when that happens.
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> The premise of CBT (as I understand it) is that our thoughts (and not external things) cause our feelings and behaviors. So, if she were to suggest that your thoughts are affecting your emotions and level of stress, which are then exacerbating your physical illness, is this a violation of your Rule #1?Yes.
> What do you mean by "tolerates any behavior" on your "part which is whiny and/or age inappropriate?" Do you already know how you want her to respond if you do exhibit these behaviors (which are perfectly acceptable and good grist for the therapy mill, by the way)? Are you going to warn her that she is to respond only in a certain manner to you?
I don't believe that those behaviors are perfectly acceptable and good grist for the therapy mill. One warning.
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> Are you concerned that she will not stay alert or awake? What makes you think this is going to be a problem?I've had it happen in the past. Maybe this T will drink lots of coffee. ;)
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> Do you have a list of Rules for yourself as well? Do you have any responsibilities in the therapeutic relationship, other than firing your therapist for being human? What if your therapist provided you with a list of Rules at your first session, and advised you that if you do not follow them to her liking, she can terminate therapy with you without your input?I'd read the Ts rules and if I didn't like them, I wouldn't see that T. I had this happen to me. When hospitalized in 1988 for Dep., my MD was a great pschopharmacologist, but had a private practice to attend to that was to far from the hospital. A psychiarist handled my daily visits.
He told me on my first visit (in the hospital) that I had to do everything he said, or I would not be his patient. I had to go to all group sessions and take part in all activities (except going to Mass [a Catholic run hosp]). I also had to go on a walk daily. Mind you other Dep. patients, of other Pdocs were allowed to stay in bed all day and do whatever they wanted.
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> Just curious as to why you seem so adamant about eliminating the human element of therapy. What is it that you want to get out of this therapy? Whether we like it or not, all relationships (and this includes the therapeutic one) require compromise and negotiation. Are you afraid of the relationship?Sorry, I'm tired of those rhetorical questions which attempt to put words in my mouth/ and/or paint me in a certain light. Your question about why I'm so adamant about... is like being asked by a policeman: "so, when did you stop hitting your wife." I think I should have read all of your questions before I answered any of them.
Please don't respond to any of my posts from now on. Thanks.
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> What is your history in regards to therapy (treatment modality, length of treatment, quality of the therapeutic relationship, outcome, etc.)?
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