Posted by DaisyM on July 23, 2004, at 21:59:28
In reply to Weird?, posted by Susan47 on July 23, 2004, at 20:01:09
I'm sorry you are having such a hard time. If you go back and read my posts you will see that my relationship with my Therapist has been a constant struggle against attaching to him. It isn't sexual in anyway. He makes the younger parts of me feel safe and cared for. They trust him. The adult me feels like an idiot half the time for having these intense feelings.
Many people believe distance is better. That a "dependency" will develop. I torture myself with reading articles about this, and usually it ends up causing me to try to flee the therapy relationship. Or cut down.
My therapist believes so strongly in inter-dependence. He WANTS me to need him. And to reach out with this need. We talk about it in terms of development all the time. He thinks if I can "practice" needing him, I can get more balanced in my other relationships, where people need me.
I don't know if you feelings are romantic. But think about what this intense need is...do you NEED to be taken care of? Are you hoping he will break down your psychic door and rescue the emotional part you have stashed back there? Sometimes the push/pull is a test to see if we are important enough for them to chase. But the intensity tells me you have unfinished business.
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