Posted by Elle2021 on July 13, 2004, at 19:31:52
In reply to Re: A New Fear, posted by DaisyM on July 13, 2004, at 11:00:33
> One is that we all tend to compare ourselves to the worse possible case scenario we can think of. And since we survived whatever happened to us, we discount it.
Oh! You are so right Daisy. I look back at what has happened to me and compare it to other's experiences. Then I think, how can I possibly be traumatized by this when I probably deserved it anyway. I don't like that feeling one bit.
> The other thing that happens is that there is a part of us that is so protective that even though we told something really awful or hard, the protector voice takes over and says, "now that I've said it, it wasn't so bad. So I can stop talking about it now.Yes, I feel like, hey I've told her what the *big* secret was. Now it will take me another 3 years to find a way to describe the events. Sounds sort of overwhelming to me.
> The fear is huge.
Absolutely giant.
>Old secrets are loaded with old pain.
And they really sting.
You be gentle with yourself too Daisy.
((((Daisy))))
Elle
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