Posted by B2chica on July 15, 2004, at 11:27:23
In reply to Re: A New Fear » B2chica, posted by Elle2021 on July 14, 2004, at 1:36:41
Elle dear, you may not feel like it. but BELIEVE me. you do!!
remember you are not there because your life has been perfect. you are there because you struggle, and you do need help and love.
-you know i can't help but feel like a hypocrit writing this cuz i understand Exactly what you are feeling. i Truly don't feel i deserve any help. but yet i do continue to go to sessions, so there must be a part of me (even if it comes from curiosity) that knows i need help. So maybe hang to that, maybe you don't feel it but you know you need it. and in time (please trust me) when you start to deal with some of your difficulties and can work through them, you will then know that you do/did deserve help and love.
i am So sorry you are feeling this way. and to your comment about persons near with own issues. i have noticed that my closest friends (all two of them) do infact have their own issues both in present and in past. and i think that that old saying "birds of a feather, flock together" holds some bearing. i think that it's actually ok for friends because who else can be more supportive than someone who understands from personal experience?
however with a partner you do need to be a little cautious because you may end up always being the support for them, thus making it easy to ignore our own issues, or unwillingly tuck them down deeper and this (as i am learning the hard way) will ALWAYS come back up, and probably at a very "inconvienent" time (to say the least).and honey, none of this feels good. but as time goes on, and if you continue to get help (whether or not you think you deserve it) things WILL get better. unfortunately as i have been told many times and will now pass this wisdom along, things will probably get (or feel) worse before they get better. but PLEASE just hang in there. know you are loved and supported here. Just look at how many people responded to your post. We all understand and want to help you. That alone speaks volumes about your deserving help and love.
there are many here that care about you dear.
Please hang in there and just give us a shout when you need us (or even if you don't)
here's a big hug just for you
((((((((((ELLE))))))))))))b2c.
>>But I don't feel like I deserve either help or love. Furthermore, I feel like anyone who is remotely attracted to me and would like to develop a relationship with me must have problems of their own. It's not a fun feeling.
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> Elle
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