Posted by gardenergirl on May 23, 2004, at 12:52:55
In reply to Re: A new theory of mine » terrics, posted by Dinah on May 22, 2004, at 21:51:19
Dinah,
I know that hearing unflattering things is hard. I can't imagine what it would be like hearing it from someone with whom you've had such a long and meaningful relationship. I don't like some of the things my T has said recently, but I take it that he feels our relationship is or at least I am strong enough now to survive it. And I think that's good, but of course no one likes to hear the bad stuff. In some ways, it's the mark of a truly honest relationship that someone would say those things when needed. But it still hurts.I know that in going through all of the terminations recently, I did find myself thinking about how odd the therapy relationship is. It really is set up, in some ways, to lead to an ending which can be painful. But it's an important life lesson and skill being able to deal with loss. So I'm not sure if this is where your theory is going, but it IS a relationship that can and likely at some point, WILL lead to pain. Just like so many other meaningful relationships with other human beings. I guess it is better, at least, to have someone skilled in helping you cope with that pain and a safe place in which to work through it.
I'm still struggling with this on both sides of the couch.
Take care,
gg
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