Posted by Dinah on May 22, 2004, at 8:43:02
In reply to Dealing with family when you have BPD, posted by crushedout on May 22, 2004, at 0:06:13
BPD is defined by Linehan as a problem of emotional dysregulation. Extreme emotional reaction to stimulus and slow return to baseline. It's very very painful.
If it were me, I'd listen to your stepmom and "forget" she said anything. It's always polite to "forget" unkind things that people say, or to give them every chance to "not quite get" what they're saying. For the sake of the rest of your family, who as you say, are innocent. (Perhaps even better than innocent, since there was probably some encouragement for your stepmom to take back her words.)
No way would I leave Harry to go anywhere right now. I've had too much bad luck with leaving very sick dogs at the vets. So my family knows we're only going on day trips this summer, or places Harry can go with us.