Posted by pegasus on May 22, 2004, at 17:20:50
In reply to Dealing with family when you have BPD, posted by crushedout on May 22, 2004, at 0:06:13
Yeah, I wouldn't leave a sick cat at home either. In fact, I have actually cancelled a whole vacation in the past because of my cat being sick. My family understood, but they all have cats too. My kitty is part of my family, and she's too old and frail at this point to travel (although she never was great with that even in her youth). So my options are leaving her or staying with her.
I've had good luck with hiring cat sitters. My cat needs subcutaneous fluids every day, and I've been able to get someone from my vet's office to come to my house to do that every other day when I go on vacation. I feel a lot better with that than with trying to take her with me, or trying to board her somewhere. She seems to do better when she can stay in her own home.
It's really tough, though, to leave her, even when she's well. Because she's so old, and I worry that she'll die while I'm gone.
About the BPD, if you have a lot of instability in your life, and if your cat provides stability for you, then I it makes a ton of sense that your cat might be really very important to you. Not that your stepmom is going to get that. But you don't need to apologize to anyone for it, either. I'm glad you have your cat to help you feel some stability, and comfort, and connection. I'm sure he's really precious to you.