Posted by fallsfall on April 29, 2004, at 8:35:39
In reply to ALMOST TERMINATED...and scared., posted by Pandabear on April 28, 2004, at 23:29:50
>My psychiatrist then says that for me to be able to continue in therapy with them that i have to have family therapy sessions....SO basically if I DONT have a family session from now on...I will be terminated. My therapist knows that i dont want to have a family session and she hasnt been asking me for one at all. She doesnt want me to leave and tells me that they are not trying to run me off but that My psychiatrist is extremely worried about me. She only wanted to meet with my family because she told me she doesnt understand me and she doesnt understand why I get so anxious and upset when I leave therapy. I told her the reason I do is bc i realize when I leave that I dont have my therapist to talk to anymore and it upsets me. She tells me i need to get a support group and I said that I do...the problem is that i cannot talk to my friends like i talk to my therapist and that if i talk to much it can ruin the friendship..and, i have lost many friends because I have done just that. She is very frustrated with me.
>I dont understand why she cannot just come out and ask me the question..I can tell her anything she wants to know about me. She isnt trying to dig up the past with my parents..what she wants from them is why im acting the way i am now..and why i worry so much...EXCUSE ME BUT I HAVE WORRIED ALL MY LIFE. She also wanted to ask my parents what i was missing from them that they maybe werent giving me. I told her there was NO WAY she could ask that because they have given me EVERYTHING...she was like oh..ok..whatever.
*** Pandabear, I'm sorry that your "supports" are feeling so unsupportive.
Psychiatrists and therapists figure out what is going on with people all the time without talking to their family. If your Psychiatrist doesn't understand you, that is HER problem, and she will need to figure out how to solve HER problem.
The ONLY POSSIBLE way that I could have any sympathy for your Psychiatrist's point of view would be if you were currently living with your parents AND she has a "family systems" orientation. I guess I would be really surprised to find a Psychiatrist with a Family Systems orientation. If those things were true, then I could see why she would *want* a family meeting. But even in those cases, if you say no, then the answer is no. And, I suppose, that if she is Family Systems oriented that she could say she wouldn't treat you without it. But I would then expect her to help you find a Psychiatrist who WOULD work the way you are asking.
Particularly with your therapist being on your side on this, the whole thing doesn't make sense. It almost sounds like your Psychiatrist and Therapist have an argument going on that is not related to you at all, but you are getting thrown in the mix. [Once my husband and I were each seeing therapists, and we would have meetings of the 4 of us. The therapists got too involved and started fighting between them. Their supervisory group recommended that both therapists terminate with both of us. My husband's did, but mine stayed. Being involved with therapist fights is NO FUN at all.]
Stick to your guns. Stay with your therapist and ask her to help you find a Psychiatrist who will help you.
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