Posted by shadows721 on April 28, 2004, at 17:39:51
In reply to Boundaries, posted by joslynn on April 28, 2004, at 13:01:45
I agree with you about the boundary issues. I believe that as clients we are very vunerable. We have usually been a victim of something or someone. We reply that old pain over and over again with new people and new situations. It's leads to the same pain over and over again. That's what therapy is for. It helps us see what we are doing to ourselves. For example, choosing someone unconsciously that will replay that old pain. It's familiar territory, but familiar is not good. It's keeps us from learning and having freedom from our old pain. How can we learn if we keep allowing someone to abuse us, abuse ourselves, or abusing others?
We don't choose people in our lives consciously. Most so called "attractions" are really a bound with a past pain. If we take a chance to change, we can look deeply into our relationships and ask how are they resembling my past pain? What is there in this for me to really see about myself? After all, all that is in front of me in my life is of my choosing. No one put me here but me. Am I attracted to unavailable people to perpetuate more pain, because I feel I really deserve no true love? Am I starting to like myself or am I still stuck in the pain?
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