Posted by Fallen4MyT on April 27, 2004, at 19:26:38
In reply to I got info on this from my t today, posted by shadows721 on April 27, 2004, at 18:49:30
Shadow I did not reply to you on boundaries because that is what they are....boundaries set up by one or both of you...IF both of you agree and its mutual then it THAT boundary or line drawn and that boundary could have a wide circle...I see what you posted on what your T said and that IS true however it is also true that they CAN date you..or marry you 2 plus years AFTER therapy ends...so I didnt reply as not to continue to debate a issues we made our collective points on.
> As I thought, my t stated that it is not ethical for a therapist to start having a relationship with the client. Also, they stated in school they were informed that it is something that some people feel in therapy. When they do, they need to discuss it openly with the t. Their issues may get addressed if this keeps going on in their mind. In addition, if a t starts to have feelings for the client and wants a relationship, they need to transfer the client to another therapist. End result, the client has the most to loose in this situation.
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> The very reason that we go into therapy is because we have issues that need to be addressed. The t is in power position and can in this case take advantage of the client.
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> It is no coincidence that my post of about boundary issues wasn't answered. Effective therapy is based around healthy boundaries. I have met people in my life who were so abused by their families of origin that they couldn't even define their own boundaries. Boundaries are also about empowerment.
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> I didn't write this to condemn. I wrote it out of caring. I can't stand for people to get hurt.
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