Posted by pinkeye on April 27, 2004, at 20:10:57
In reply to Re: I got info on this from my t today, posted by Fallen4MyT on April 27, 2004, at 19:26:38
Hi Fallsfall,
I really appreciate your standing. Though, however there is something I need to caution you about. I was just like you, thinking that I would be willing to develop a relationship with my therapist after a few years, but now I am rethinking my stand. Mainly because, the relationship is truly a major power imbalanace.When I think what I really like about him, it is mostly about how much he cares for me. But in reality that will not be the case. In reality, he cannot care as much as he does in the therapy room. And frankly it is a quite selfish of me to try to say I love my therapist, when I don't know anything about him - All I am saying really when I say I love him is that I love his caring.
For real love, there needs to be selfless caring on both ends and I believe cannot develop when there is a major power imbalance. Otherwise, it is just a matter of time before the power imbalance strikes you.
And howmuchever you try, it is not going to be an equal relationship. And it is bad for both of you. You will most likely get hurt.. and your therpaist will too. Of course it is still ok to enter into a relationship knowing this fully, but I am just warning you the risks of it breaking are way too high.
Pinkeye.
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