Posted by shadows721 on April 17, 2004, at 21:20:41
In reply to Sexual abuse - does molestation count?, posted by sjb on April 14, 2004, at 9:16:17
Yes, this is molestation. No one touches someone privates like this. He crossed the line. It has affected you. As someone else said, you don't have to have penetration to cross this line. Your eating disorder sounds like body self loathing to me from what happened to you. This had a deeper wound than your consciousness wanted to admit openly. Your body responded and you felt shame.
Violators don't have a sign on them saying, "Hey, everyone, I am a molestor." On the contrary, most of them look like everyone else. An almost 100% of them are protected. People tend to blame the victim. Victims tend to blame themselves as well.
Shame on him and all who protect him. Push this self loathing back to where it really belongs. Put the anger on the act of violation. Don't minimize what happened to or even allow others to minimize who and what he did to you. Get away from those that are into denial. Don't listen to it. It's trash. Validate yourself and refuse to entertain those that protect molesters like this.
Also, I have a strong feeling you aren't the only one. These people are pretators. They prey on the innocent and inexperienced. They shift all their accountability onto the victim. Don't stay in the victim role. Get empowered and take care of yourself. You didn't deserve this. Don't ever blame yourself.
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