Posted by fallsfall on April 10, 2004, at 10:59:15
In reply to Extra session next week stressing me out, posted by crushedout on April 10, 2004, at 0:13:57
I agree that her wording is ambiguous. The more open and honest you can be with her right now the better off you will be. If the relationship should be salvaged, then being open will give it the best chance. If it *shouldn't* be salvaged, that will probably start being clear earlier if you are being open.
It is perfectly reasonable to say "When I got your email, I felt like you were pressuring me to prove that I have a real issue. I'm not sure that is what you intended, but that's how I felt."
When I started making fewer assumptions and flat out asked about things with my old therapist (like "did you know that I've been miserable and in pain for the last 4 months") rather than making assumptions (of course I assumed that she DID know - after all she was my wonderful therapist) that things started being much clearer. So I would think it would be to your advantage to double check things with her (both that make you feel good and that make you feel bad) just to be sure that you are interpreting things in the way she intends them to come across.
I know this is stressful for you. It will be stressful until you decide whether you should go or stay (and it will be stressful after that for a while, too). I needed to force myself to plow through the stress - there was no other way.
Cheering you on,
Falls.
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