Posted by gardenergirl on April 4, 2004, at 17:06:24
In reply to Re: i can't find the words » gardenergirl, posted by crushedout on April 4, 2004, at 16:13:30
I personally don't think her response that it hurts her is helpful. It is either manipulative or serious countertransference. Either way, I don't think it is therapeutic for you. It puts your SI'ing in terms of her, when it really is your behavior.
Sorry if this is overly harsh. I think you ARE working through transference by thinking of ending the relationship and realizing it may not be therapeutic any longer. I think her reaction to your SI is evidence that it is no longer working.
I wish you the very best. Whatever you decide, I know it won't be easy. Take care, sweet.
(((Crushedout)))
gg
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