Posted by Racer on February 17, 2004, at 0:58:08
In reply to Re: Marriage counseling and individual therapy, ideas? » Racer, posted by fallsfall on February 16, 2004, at 22:14:38
With an ex-boyfriend/live-in/fiance. We were in counseling together, and the day I told him -- in therapy -- that I was leaving him, he told me that he was finally ready to set the date. The therapist told us that she had been able to see both those events coming, but was more sure that he was finally ready to set the date.
By the way, just to make you absolutely snort milk across the room if you're drinking it while reading, on the way out the door, he grabbed me in a big hug and said, crying, "Will you still pick out my suits for me?"
He wasn't a bad guy, just dumb as a flat rock. His lips moved when he watched TV...
Part of the problem is that I can't leave my husband, and he can't leave me. I could tell you everything, but then the FBI would get involved, and have to turn it over to the NSA, and by the time they figured anything out it would be a new century.... (OK, the FBI part just struck me as funny to put in there. The real story has to do with economic need, emotional need, immigration status distruption, and one of those facts that I sometimes find myself overlooking: I love my husband very much, and can't imagine not being part of his life.)
(On the other hand, I can imagine very graphically having some other man in my *bed*, but that's another story altogether...)
Thanks for telling your story. I'll bet there are others reading this saying, "Wow, my ex did that, too..." or "She thinks I'd snort milk over a little thing like that? She should hear what mine did..."
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