Posted by Penny on January 30, 2004, at 14:03:15
In reply to Re: therapists/pdocs and honest opinions..., posted by Karen_kay on January 30, 2004, at 13:07:17
Thanks, all, for your feedback.
I don't by any means expect anyone to tell me that I'm beautiful. I look too much like my father to be beautiful. I know I was cute little girl. Red hair, blue eyes, straight teeth, average body size - actually a bit petite for my age when I was small. And I was pretty cute until I got to be about 9 and in the early phases of puberty. Then I started gaining weight, did god only knows what with my hair (!!!) and it was downhill from there.
I guess I agree with JYL in that I don't really want honesty - just a nonjudgmental friend. And I guess my clinicians and true friends are pretty nonjudgmental.
At the same time, my pdoc is really one of the only men (there's one other that I can think of!) who I really and truly trust, and I have such problems with men, and I tend to blame much of it on my looks/weight/etc., so part of me would like to know honestly what he thinks. But I guess even if I were to ask him, he would be a bit biased, as he has known me for a while now and a person's perception of another's attractiveness increases usually the longer you've known someone.
I dunno...my T keeps trying to convince me that it's not all about weight (I'm about a size 18-20, 5'6") or looks, but I'm not convinced. I have soooo much to work on in therapy. Gosh, I guess at the rate I'm going, I should just join a convent. At least then I can stop worrying about making myself attractive to men...
:-b
P
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