Posted by Miss Honeychurch on January 30, 2004, at 12:04:59
In reply to Re: therapists/pdocs and honest opinions... » Penny, posted by Dinah on January 30, 2004, at 11:05:23
I as well have a self-image problem and go through long periods of time where I feel completely unattractive. I have tried so hard to get my T to compliment me on my physical appearance (he compliments me a lot on my creativity, intelligence, etc), but he never falls for the traps I set to get a physical compliment. I KNOW he would never comment on my appearance. Very frustrating. But he is trying to hammer the thought into my head that the only opinion that counts in my life is my own, I shouldn't seek validation from others.
And I think maybe he is paranoid about complimenting female patients in general. Perhaps female Ts with female patients have no problem with the compliments. His boundaries are very strict.
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