Posted by Rigby on January 28, 2004, at 14:49:07
In reply to Interesting book and a question about boundaries, posted by crushedout on January 28, 2004, at 8:03:54
Hi Crushed,
I think your instincts on this are good: discuss it with her and take it from there.
My hunch is that the CD giving is probably something you'll want to move past since it could be construed as a gift. I learned this the hard way as I used to do the gift thing. Not gifty gifts but meaningful ones, similar to the CD type of thing. Then I was told, suddenly, no more gifts. Why? Because it confuses the relationship. And it can make it feel too friendly. Too friendly can often times translate into a client feeling a need to take care of the therapist like one would a friend (e.g. be nice, be polite, be supportive.) So it's probably not a dynamic that I would think your therapist would want to encourage unless she thinks that each time you give her a CD something new is being learned on your end.
One thought I had as an idea would be to, instead of making her the CD, try and talk to her in your voice and words about how you feel. Maybe pick out the songs you would have picked and describe why you picked each one? I say this because I tend to hide behind my creativity (which is short story and script writing) but actually facing feelings without creative expression is a challenge and perhaps a good exercise.
Best,
Rigby
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