Posted by Karen_kay on January 15, 2004, at 8:49:23
In reply to Re: sexual boundary crossing, posted by Miss Honeychurch on January 15, 2004, at 8:34:41
Just kidding dear :) (Oh, man I can feel the wrath of Dr Bob on that one...)
I can make a logical conclusion as to why he has said the things he has. The bra size comment, well (I'm laughing now) Ok, I'll give you that one. And thanks for adding that to the pile :) But, that was to make me realize that my breasts aren't tiny, as I often describe them. And it worked, as I don't go in griping every session that my breasts are tiny. And I may joke about it, but I don't think it anymore. Isn't the point of CBT to point of false thinking patterns? And isn't that what he did? Maybe in a not so subtle way, but sometimes to get through to me, HONESTLY you just can't be subtle. And it has taken him a while to learn that.
Now, granted, if he were to grab my a**, I'd seriously rethink my boyfriend situation **HAHAHA** No, I can see where the way I explain what happens and the context (??understand??) it actually happens may vary. But, in all honesty, if a situation were to arise where I felt he was honestly breaking boundaries, I wouldn't hesitate to speak up. Bending, I'll let that go. Sometimes I need things shoved in my face to have a point made.
Also, when I had my *crush* on him, he didn't encourage it. Many times, he became frustrated when I brought it up. So, he wasn't feeding it by any means. I'd just say I had him flustered. And this wasn't a typical therapy session. I don't usually go in there and ask him what he fantasizes about or what he thinks aobut my breasts or anything like that.....
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