Posted by Kalamatianos on January 8, 2004, at 16:34:36
In reply to Re: wrong name, posted by Joslynn on January 8, 2004, at 15:23:18
May I offer encouragement?
Take the next 10 years to re-friend yourself.
Only a guess: you are told to, "pull yourself together by your bootstraps", etc. by those who want something from you and forget to balance the ledger. Am I close? I have "controlling" people around me like that. I now keep them at arms length, and my arms keep getting longer and longer, where they are concerned.
Pick some new friends because these aren't working out. Since I can't tell the future, I bet you can't either. You have no idea who else that would be a better match as a friend until you look for some. That's how I am, toooo.
If you have limits in place for the new friends, you'll do nicely. There are bunches of folks out there who would appreciate you much better than you have been by those around you, from what you say.
Focus on people that ARE good, not just those who act good or look good. I'm not implying anything. I am encouraging focus. Develop habits that include seeking beautiful outcomes and successes. You will be amazed how effective it becomes to ignore the "what ifs" and go for the beautiful. "What ifs" come from obligatory thinking. Just say, "make mine beautiful!"
10 years can be lots of time to devote to this update. And, BTW, 10 years from now you'll really only be 10 years older, but with 10 years of people that tend to encourage you instead of control and diminish you.
I hope you find my words encouraging.
poster:Kalamatianos
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