Posted by Kalamatianos on January 6, 2004, at 14:38:09
In reply to Re: Boundaries vs Indifference » Kalamatianos, posted by Elle2021 on January 6, 2004, at 5:56:57
<<<Though, technically, love is the direct opposite of hate
>>> The feeling (emotional) component of love can be in opposition when others have the feeling of hatred. There are many more components than just feelings connected to the phenomenon known as LOVE. Indifference is the power to make a difference; like agreeing to disagree; like accepting optional outcomes over (childhood) expectations.
Again, like all childhood proclivities, hatred is an un-resolvable and "one-way" feeling. That's not how the adult world works. Adults have, and do utilize, options and optional thinking to the point of resolution including optional outcomes. That doesn't make adults the enemy of children. That fact gives children something to aspire to when they are ready; when their wiring undergoes an overhaul at the hands of their genetic time clock.
Do you have grey hair? I do. I accept the liabilities of getting old along with the benefits I enjoyed from age 15 onward. The genetic clock has passed onto me another marker of time. When I turned 50, I swear I started forgetting more often. I also recognize that my memory priorities are undergoing a fundamental remapping and many details might be temporarily misplaced from quick access for recall. I do seem to call up the maddenly missing facts later and out of synch.
I am, however, totally disinterested in "Trivial Pursuit" which is shocking because of my "star" status at parties. I used to pass time studying the decks of “Trivial Pursuit” cards while watching TV at night. Everyone always wanted to be on my team.
And now I’m happily indifferent. I have noticed that the values, status, and goals of my new acquaintances has increased. Does this mean what I think it means? Was I a “Trivial Pursuit” bore at parties all those years? Hmmmmmmmm……..
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