Posted by Adia on December 22, 2003, at 19:30:55
In reply to Re: 'success' in psychoanalysis » badhaircut, posted by Pfinstegg on December 22, 2003, at 16:14:39
Hi..( I haven´t been posting because I am really struggling-I see my therapist again on feb 13th.)
but I just wanted to say that I agree with you, Pfinstegg, and I feel the same way..
I think it all depends on the needs of the patient, on the nature of the issues, etc. In my case, after years of abuse and the isolation and lack of human support and nurture and the secrecy of it all...and everything..I do need that deep emotional bond and analysis has helped me..it took me a long time to build the trust I feel now that it is letting me for the first time start talking or trying to talk or telling what I´ve kept inside for so long...I need that safety...and it takes a long time to build trust when you never learnt how to trust before or your trust was betrayed. It´s a slow, painful progress..and I need to have a psychologist willing to go with me back all of that and help me, it´s something so basic, it´s like you don´t even know how to feel you are good and I feel in psychoanalysis you can get to those beliefs..
I think that in abuse cases, it is really important and necessary to have that secure environment...to feel that connection with your therapist..I feel that even though I progress at a very, very slow pace..and my T gets frustrated many many times, I am making some progress with analysis..I am feeling it is possible that someone can accept me with all of me, I am feeling it is possible to share those secrets and have someone to listen without thinking I´m dirty or not lovable, I still can´t name the things, I still can´t share the feelings and I am feeling really on the edge right now, but I am learning how to reach out...I have a really long way to go and right now I am finding it really hard to cope but I wanted to share a bit..and I just wanted to say I feel the same way..
for any useful work to take place, it is really essential to build trust and safety first and that takes a long time for some.sorry I´m not in the best place to share or post..
I just wanted to say I understand...sorry if this doesn´t make any sense..I wanted to say I´m glad you posted this, Pfinstegg.lots of support,
Adia.> Maybe it's a mistake to consider psychoanalysis as in some way radically different from other psychodynamically-oriented therapies. Aren't modern analytic ideas- those of analysts like Kohut, Winnicot, Loewald, Ogden, Mitchell, etc. the basic wellsprings from which most all of modern therapy is derived? I'm not talking about Freud here! The contemporary emphasis in psychoanalysis appears to be on empathy and the interaction between analyst and patient. Especially in dealing with trauma and abuse, a secure attachment is a necessity before any uncovering of unconscious memories can usefully take place- as Dinah pointed out to us recently with that excellent article on dependency in the treatment of sexual abuse.
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> I think I have made a lot of gains in my ten months of analysis- primarily in a reduction in depression and anxiety. I have really deepened and secured my attachment to my (adorable) analyst, but have not yet explored the abuse too much. I think I'm getting ready to, however, as I am feeling so much better.
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