Posted by Bell_75 on December 18, 2003, at 18:26:15
In reply to Re: therapist a comedian?, posted by Karen_kay on December 18, 2003, at 8:51:45
> Kind of sad when you have to explain to a comedian that you were only kidding, eh? That is the thing about therapists, they take everything so literally. Like he'll ask "How does that make you feel" And I'll say "Like a dumb ass" And he'll go into this big explanation about how I'm in fact not a dumb ass, but very inteligent, ect. I just feel like he's not listening. I know I'm smart, but sometimes I feel stupid. And I don't need him to tell me I'm not. I know I'm not. UGHHH!! It's frustrating!
> Sorry! Back to you! Oh, BTW, we are doing a post on therapy gripes and they are very funny.. you should read and contribute... see the posts below! :)
> I'm curious.. What happened at the hairdresser's???
> You could always check online to find out where he will be. I'd be curious to see his show. Not to find out if he uses clients, but to see his sense of humor. Especially since he lacks one in the office :)
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> Would you go to a show if you knew where it was? Why or why not? I think it would be interesting to see a different side to your therapist, especially such a different side. It seems so weird because my therapist and I are always cracking jokes. Maybe yours avoids them because he is a comedian. And doesn't want anyone to think that he is just using humour because it is also what he does well. Understand what I'm saying? But, I htink it is normal for all therapists (at least those who aren't dry) to use a bit of humor when appropriate.
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> Go this weekend and see his show.
> Tell me if he's funny.
> If he's not funny, tell him next week not to quit his day job!
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>heheh aaah I love your posts. I'm grinning from ear to ear.
Hmm, I would go to one of his shows. Sort of. I think I'd go but in a way that he wouldn't notice me, I think seeing him outside of his office would kind of be weird for me. I like the fact that we dont have a personal life together so I don't feel inclined to 'be friends' with him. If that doesn't sound too nasty. I also have this paranoia that if I saw him in a personal public setting where I was with my friends and he was with his my mind would be thinking "oh this is akward. This guy knows practically every last detail of my life".
No one out of my friends and family have seen as much of me emotionally as he has and i think we all need abit of mystery and privacy to make us feel secure.
As for him cracking jokes in our sessions, hes moreso tries to be funny by teasing me. Like last week I gave him this big spin on how i cant get a job because no one wants me and I'm not good enough and there's always someone better than me blah blah the usual self-esteem crap and he just looked at me with this big grin on his face so i eventually asked him 'what?' and he said 'thats a load of shit. You're not allowed to spin shit in my room." I was gobsmacked! At the end of the session he said to me 'I hope you didn't mind me being a bit confrontational today and straight forward" I didn't mind a bit. I'm often telling him to stop being so nice and apologizing for things which are small and aren't really a big deal for me. (him going overtime with a client before me, missing a week, a phone call during a session etc).
Also, the city in which I live in hasn't really got a big stand-up comedy following so I think he only would do it on a rare occasion as there is no specific place in the CBD for stand-up. Who knows.
Therapy/psychology is actually not his day job to my surprise. He only does that 2 days a week and on the other days he does labratory testing at the university in town. He told me he does testing on animals but not cosmetics. Due to the glorious power of the net I found out that he has actually done some pretty great scientific studies as far as rodents and studying their reactions to certain situations/environments etc.
There's a link to a medical journal that wrote about it but I dont think I should post it here. He deserves that much privacy at least.
The hairdresser's? hmmm I dunno if I wanna bring it up again. Its rather embarassing and sort of long winded but lets just say I've ended up with a really bad excuse for a haircut. It wasn't funny at the time but I can laugh about it now.
Anywho, I'm off to catch the damn bus to therapy. lol I'm not too keen on public transport but I'm reaping what I accidently sewed (I crashed my uninsured car a few months ago).
I once wore to therapy a shirt that says "you'e just jealous cause the little voices are talking to me" and I showed him, he laughed abit then said "are there little voices?"
Uuugh..so I know what you mean by everything being taken literally but at least they're goin to the effort to check it out I guess.
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