Posted by Bell_75 on December 17, 2003, at 7:29:15
In reply to Re: therapist crying » Dinah, posted by DaisyM on December 17, 2003, at 1:21:17
> <<<I might bring it up again briefly to tell him I spent some time trying, and failing, to think of moving incidents from my past. Which makes me feel like a huge fraud. What right do I have to take up therapy space when I have none?
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> >>>Don't you think this might be a reason TO take up therapy space? I'm sure you aren't a fraud. And many people would applaud your ability to leave the past in the past. Can you react *emotionally* to an event vs. *intellectually* "in the moment" as they say?
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> I typically use my brain before my heart. As in I try to solve the problem instead of just being there for someone. I'd make a terrible therapist!
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>In last weeks session my therapist mentions that he believes i double up on alot of emotions. Meaning, I feel guilty about being depressed, I'm depressed about feeling guilty, I have anixety about having depression etc etc
I didn't notice this till he mentioned it and I now see what he means by this. I recalled him telling me this when you mentioned how you put your head before your heart.
I often feel guilty in therapy and say things like "oh but I'm just being a whinger" or "I probably sound like such a complainer". When he said to me one dose of depression is more than enough for one person I couldn't agree more. Yet, I still can't bring myself to accept that I'm not "whinging" or "complaining" when I'm talking about current issues that are making me unhappy or even past ones.
Maybe I'm just getting too much off the point now as I say this, just thought I'd share with you my little piece :)
btw, just stumbled upon this board tonight.
You guys rock! I'm so relieved to hear/read that I'm not alone in all this.
As for the issue of therapists crying? well I sorta moreso have the paranoia that because i know my therapist does stand up comedy he'll use an incident ive told him as material. He sort of chuckles when i suggest that but in the back of my mind there's the lingering thought of being a joke for a public audience.
Anyway, thats another story all together :P
Much love and hugs to everyone xoxox
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