Posted by joslynn on December 2, 2003, at 15:13:05
In reply to Re: Therapist gives in once again, posted by joslynn on December 2, 2003, at 15:02:23
Even if the physical act itself would never occur, I think the basic idea is that even flirtation coming from the therp is unhealthy. (You can flirt all you want, not him.) Of course I don't remember where I read this....
Sometimes my female therapist says "hi cutie" but of course that is totally different than a male therp.
Only one time did my pdoc compliment my looks, and that was because I was feeling rejected about a breakup and asked him point blank if I was unattractive. He said I was very pretty and I didn't have to worry about that, you never know why people decide to reject you usually it has nothing to do with you, etc.
I could tell by the way he hesitated before he said I was very pretty that he felt like he was in unusual territory. I was basically fishing for compliments, plus this was on the phone, so I guess he made an exception. I don't think he would normally say I was beautiful on a regular basis. I don't think many male therps or pdocs would do that, there is such a sensitivity to lawsuits nowadays. Not that they would get sued just for that, but if somehow you could build a case based on this, that or the other, all little things leading down that slippery slope...
I guess my point is, I'm sure you are beautiful, and that his not telling you that anymore is not because you aren't beautiful, but because of therapeutic reasons.
poster:joslynn
thread:285945
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