Posted by fallsfall on September 28, 2003, at 10:38:24
In reply to Re: Using Sessions Better - Need Advice, posted by DaisyM on September 28, 2003, at 0:10:40
It does sounds like you are doing really well. 5 months is not a long time if you have significant issues. My first therapist said that she thought I would need 6 sessions for my depression. I stayed with her 8 1/2 years. Guess I had a few more issues than she could see in that first session. I can tell that you are trying really hard to be open and honest. That can be so hard to do.
The process is one sided. Actually, the other side is the money that you pay. Since I'm always trying to take care of other people, it was hard at first to let someone take care of me (but then I got to liking it, and that was a different problem!). I think that one thing that made it easier for me was that she really was unhappy when I tried to push the subject away from me. Eventually I figured out that the way to make a therapist happy is to keep them out of the discussion. It is definately weird.
22.2 seconds is a long time to tolerate feelings. You should be proud. This part takes a lot of practice. The time will increase when you start to understand that you don't explode or implode when the feelings are out in the open.
Therapy is a unique thing. It takes some getting used to. I look forward to hearing how it goes for you.
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