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Re: Now about those tranferences.....Hannah.

Posted by Pfinstegg on September 8, 2003, at 2:00:38

In reply to Re: Now about those tranferences...... HannahW, posted by stebby on September 4, 2003, at 19:30:21

Hi Hannah.. in my view, pretty much everything you experience in psychotherapy is transference. This doesn't mean that the feelings aren't real, or, that if you were not in therapy, you would not become dear friends with your therapist. The fact that you developed such strong feelings for her so quickly probably means that you and she are a "good match", which would be a plus in terms of a successful outcome.

What we all experience is a unique combination of very intense feelings of love, closeness, hatred and anger- all combined with a basic continuous frustration of those same feelings. If the therapist doesn't maintain the proper boundaries, a lot of pain and harm can occur to the patient- there are some powerful examples of that in past threads here, We all wish for personal loving relationships with our therapists, but at the same time, we count on our therapists not fulfilling these wishes, for our safety and emotional well-being.

From what I have learned, dealing with all the feelings involved in the transference, while your therapist is using his/her countertranference to understand your experience, - all of the emotions that occur in the space between the two of you-is THE curative agent in psychotherapy. Not all therapists feel this way, exactly, but almost all have moved at least some extent towards this view. There is less emphasis on such traditional techniques as interpretation, and more on the emotional interactions of the moment- and then the next moment and the next! (and before you know it, you are faced with talking about the very feelings you swore you would never mention!)

I do hope you have a wonderful experience with your new therapist.





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