Posted by WorryGirl on January 3, 2003, at 14:31:55
In reply to spending a fortune on therapy, posted by Tabitha on December 19, 2002, at 3:03:07
Tabitha,
I understand how you feel about the therapy. Whenever I am seeing a therapist it ends up costing me as much as $800 a month. We don't claim it on my husband's insurance because he's in a high position and doesn't want others knowing our personal business (HR is supposed to be discreet, but it's amazing what leaks out). I can't say that I blame him for not wanting his employees, who are supposed to respect him, to know that his wife is having emotional problems. That would just lead to speculation and I'm already so uncomfortable in social situations, that I don't think I could handle it if everyone knew that my mental state was off.I stopped going to one because the pressure was too intense for me to continue seeing him twice a week. You have to realize that not only was I paying close to $100 for a one-hour session, but I had to pay for childcare, too!
He seemed to think we were making progress. I can honestly say I felt no better after 7 months of his therapy, even though he was very nice and the only person who was willing to listen to me unload (that was worth $100, just not twice a week!).
I've seen two other therapists only once and didn't return because I didn't feel good chemistry with them. Maybe I shouldn't even be worrying about that, but it would be hard for me to open up to someone who I don't even feel likes me.I think you should tell your therapist you are taking a long, much-needed vacation (spend some of that money saved by not going to therapy) and see how you feel after a month or so of no therapy. Another thought is that if you desperately still need some support go to another therapist during this hiatus from your original therapist.
If you don't feel that you have improved after all this time I doubt that this particular therapist is helping you.
Just another thought - if you are not dependent upon your current career, maybe you could try another avenue doing something less stressful and something that you truly enjoy.
I hope things get better for you.
poster:WorryGirl
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