Posted by ramsea on January 22, 2004, at 9:37:41
In reply to Deaths of 3 loved ones within one year, posted by PHV on October 18, 2003, at 23:40:46
There is no way an experience like this can be played off. It is so true, that the only way to deal with grief is to go through it. We have to find our own peace with each of our loved ones who have passed on. I read a quote today I sort of like. A man was suffering very badly from grief and crying out, It is bad! It is bad! And a sage said, Nothing we endure is bad--G-d does not give bad things. But you can say, It is Bitter! It is Bitter! For many medicinal herbs are bitter.
Now I think there is something in that quote that helps me. The implication, that what we endure while very bitter may eventually heal us in some way.
I had 3 losses myself in a short period of time several years ago. I didn't cope well--I had a major breakdown. Now I am consciously trying to find ways to process my feelings of desperate sorrow, sadness, pathos and loss. This is not easy.My hope for you is that you will find ways to go through this hard time that help you stay well enough to find continued meaning and purpose in your suffering. Forgive me please if this doesn't make sense. I may well be out of my depth here. Stay well.
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