Posted by Dinah on July 15, 2012, at 8:52:12
In reply to Smoothing troubled waters? » Dinah, posted by zazenducke on July 15, 2012, at 6:17:30
I was speaking of Scott in general. Many is the time that I've seen him defuse a situation.
I daresay even the most peaceloving of people reach their limit eventually when provoked. Your style of address to Scott is pretty consistent. As it is to me, and to most deputies/ex-deputies, and a few other people you seem to connect with the administration.
Did I see mocking mentioned in that quote you gave? The one that started
"Norwegian researcher Dan Olweus defines bullying as when a person is
"exposed, repeatedly and over time, to negative actions on the part of one or more other persons.""
You keep mentioning snark and snorts long after their have been any snark or snorts. Why bring up things from years and years ago over and over again long after the events have ended and not been repeated? Out of context and with no provocation? Do you not see that as exposing another person repeatedly and over time to negative actions on the part of another?
Even if you believe that a person enforcing site guidelines because they believe in site guidelines is bullying, do you not see that clever remarks by a clever poster made consistently over time fits the criteria as well? Even under your understanding of it?
I give you the credit of believing that you are railing against perceived power and believe yourself justified. I give you this credit because I see you posting quite kindly to people whom you perceive as having no power. And because I see you intervening in the same sort of situations I wish to intervene in. But do you not see your own use of power? Do you never question whether it's really ok to treat others the way you do because of how you perceive them?
Look in the mirror, zzd. Even your own mirror with your own world view.
If I didn't credit you with decent motives, I wouldn't be trying to say this to you. And it could be that I'm wrong to do that. But I wonder if you try to change your attitude towards those you perceive as misusing power, you might learn to feel differently. I'm reasonably certain that Scott would also be willing to try a reset. I've always expressed my willingness to do so. And for that matter, my experience with you has not been consistently negative. I've quite enjoyed some of our interchanges and many of your positive and helpful interchanges with others.