Posted by SLS on September 14, 2011, at 21:08:44
In reply to Re: I'm sorry everyone, posted by Dinah on September 14, 2011, at 20:46:11
Great post, Dinah.
Deliberate well, Deneb.
- Scott
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> > I thought I was doing OK. Well I just really wanted to win this weight loss competition. I realize that's it's probably impossible now, so I'll just forget about that.
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> Deneb, don't you see that that's the real problem? And while you gave up on the weight loss competition, the fact is that you chose to restrict calories to an unhealthy degree in order to win a weight loss competition. People who are in good mental health and who make healthy choices don't make decisions like that. The weight loss competition and fasting itself is nowhere near as important as the fact that you made a very self destructive choice. And likely will again unless you recognize this as a problem and work to solve it. This is where therapy and some very honest self appraisal can be useful.
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> Maybe you did do it to try to keep your pdoc. Certainly I am the last person to judge the desire to do anything - anything at all - to keep a beloved therapist/pdoc.
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> Maybe the reason is what my therapist suggested (incorrectly) for me. A desire to create chaos in your life.
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> Maybe it's because you equate caring with caretaking. So you feel compelled to create situations where people will worry about you, and thus show their caring in a way you can understand and accept.
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> Maybe it's just because you reduced your risperdal dose and are acting according to obsessions and compulsions that were kept in check by the medication. Honestly, I think there was a time not that long ago when you would have made healthier choices.
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> Whatever the reason, concentrating on the latest incarnation of the problem is unlikely to be helpful if you don't address the underlying problem.
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> Why don't you bring it up with your pdoc, and say you think there are some deeper issues you have not yet addressed. (Yes, I'm not averse to helping you keep your pdoc/other mother.)
Some see things as they are and ask why.
I dream of things that never were and ask why not.
poster:SLS
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