Posted by morgan miller on November 4, 2010, at 18:43:19
In reply to T--t-t-t-t-t-t-truth, posted by Brainbeard on November 4, 2010, at 18:18:41
> > If we allow ourselves(usually subconsciously) to continue to feel anxiety, we prevent ourselves from feeling really good again, which would then make us vulnerable again.
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> So very true and insightful! I always go from anxiety to boredom to feeling happy to feeling miserable and 'losing everything', as you adequately put it. As soon as I feel well, my anxiety will agressively force itself upon me - or, perhaps I should say: *I* will agressively force anxiety upon myself..
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>Yeah I compare it to being afraid to be vulnerable in a romantic relationship. Because we were hurt at some point, we may be afraid to allow ourselves to truly be vulnerable with a romantic partner. We start to allow ourselves to open up some and be happy with someone, but soon begin to do things to sabotage the relationship and maintain a certain "safe" distance. The reality is, we have to be able to be completely vulnerable in a relationship in order to fully reap the benefits of it, maintain it, and truly be happy in it. I am so guilty of sabotage and distancing in both relationships and life, and my anxiety(including the emotional wounds that drive my anxiety) is the star player in all of it.
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thread:968403
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