Posted by katekite on May 16, 2002, at 12:46:39
In reply to Re: GP telling you this sid? » katekite, posted by sid on May 16, 2002, at 11:26:51
Docs can be very annoying. I've switched several times just because personalities get in the way -- for example one was I missed a couple appointments (ADD) and they started getting on me every time about it, which I didn't need.
You should switch docs. I wouldn't wait for her to continue to bother you about this issue, because you've already lost trust in her. Find someone really intelligent who can say 'I don't know', who quotes statistics and doesn't say 'this will help'. These are the types of docs intelligent people need. Then if you ask them if they think you have a personality disorder and they say yes, you might actually believe them and get evaluated for it (they would suggest evaluation, not a jump to group therapy). This woman will not change.
I understand about the not-lesbian just not into having an annoying hubby. Not myself, but a couple good friends just aren't constructed out of the particular mold that society says we should be. Ironically men get away with this so much easier. At least the ivory tower doesn't care. You do not need to make any explanation for how you feel. Some people were meant to be single.
You do sound like you have a lot of anger. And totally have unresolved issues with your siblings. Ie can't tell them to 'f#^k off' when they deserve it, LOL. Obviously this is just an email impression.... the main thing is if you are happy enough with how things are for that to be good enough forever. Otherwise a therapist would be the person to see (not a dumb touchy feely one, you have to find someone smarter than yourself who will challenge you, if its going to go anywhere... not many around most likely, but possible.) My husband just found one, he's a professor as well. He says each time is like a puzzle or a challenging cross-word, stimulates his brain and he comes away tired but feeling like he has improved his life. Generally I come away from therapy a bit confused why I went, I talked the whole time and feel no different -- I think a lot has to do with the therapist.
So switch GPs!