Posted by Richard on February 14, 2001, at 7:09:43
In reply to Re: Depression and Relationships » Richard, posted by allisonm on February 14, 2001, at 2:30:05
Happy Valentines Day Allison!
Thanks for the Good Luck! I need it...She is not very close to her Grandmother but she sure is with her Father. Not really close to her Mother either. There are some issues in her past with her changing family. Her Mother pretty much abandoned her when she was a child, her Father, brothers, and a few sisters are still very close. She can't have any more children and her daughter and son-in-law are planning on moving out soon to be more or less on their own.
Our relationship decisions were very mutual. I wasn't trying to pressure her in the least bit. In fact, she had already sat down and had a talk with the household and told them that she was moving out soon to be with me. I ALMOST rented a two bedroom apartment for us but at the last minute I agreed to move in with her in her house, as soon as her daughter made plans. This decision made her happy, it's a much longer drive to work for me but I am willing to do just about anything to have this Lady in my life. In fact, when we first started becomming serious, I told her that I didn't want to make any permanent decisions as far as marriage for one year from the date we met. Just to make sure. She was comfortable with this. It happened so very fast. She would tell me (very recently) that she Loved me more than anyone else in her life and was convinced that God had brought us together. She is a very religious soul and I have made some changes because of her influence. I felt a glow from her the first time we met, have been in that glow ever since. But now, she hardly will call me. I have given her space but do call maybe once a week to assure her that I still care, still Love her, and still believe in her.
She does have a therepist and just last week called me in tears telling me she knows she is suffering, knows she needs to talk to someone, and has an appointment on the first of next month. I wish as she probably does, that this could come sooner. She also said that she feels led (by who?) to be alone right now. I am giving her space but I want her to know that there is NO OTHER that I am even considering. I just can't wrap my mind around being with anyone else.
Well, I just got up, got my first cup of coffee, 'bout to get into the shower and put on my best for her. I just want her to have something for Valentines Day and also to let her know that I understand, care, and Love her deeply.
Thanks for your quick reply.
Richard
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