Posted by Cass on June 3, 2000, at 20:08:23
In reply to Re: I'm in love with my pdoc., posted by Noa on June 3, 2000, at 14:43:30
Perhaps you were emitting a need for reasurance and it tapped his desire to help you not feel so inadequate--especially to see you leave the session feeling inadequate. Perhaps you showed the need to be taken care of in this way, and he responded to it.
-->I didn't feel particularly needy despite the topic, but I don't know if I was emitting a need for reassurance or not. I actually felt quite motivated to change my life for the better. I want to think he meant what he said and wasn't just trying to boost my self esteem. He's not a shallow person. I know that. I don't think he says things that he doesn't mean. I feel that we have a raporte and have similarities in our personalities. For example, we both respect people who have strong moral convictions (not Jerry Falwell "moral") and are willing to put their popularity on the line for it. I'm not sure what my point is here. I guess I just feel the need to defend our connection.
I think the extent to which a therapist (unless it is a truly unskilled one) is vulnerable to responding to a client's subconscious wishes by gratifying them rather than exploring them can be a clue as to how strong those wishes and needs are. It sounds like your self-acceptance issues are powerful and the need for someone else to make you feel better about yourself in a way you cannot, perhaps that came across--->I like to think that I've overcome a lot of my self-acceptance issues, but I definitely have a ways to go. He's been a psychiatrist for a long, long time. I think he is very skilled. I appreciate your input, but I think I'm more confused than ever.
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