Posted by Todd on June 3, 2000, at 18:50:44
In reply to Re: I'm in love with my pdoc., posted by Noa on June 3, 2000, at 14:43:30
Hey, Noa. I agree with quite a few of the points you brought up in response to Cass. I shouldn't say I agree completely, rather, I agree that the points you brought up are valid and should be considered. But I wouldn't necessarily condemn the pdoc for making such a statement. As long as he is balancing the need to explore Cass's subconscious motives with the need to strengthen her self-image, I say "right on."
I think it's refreshing that a therapist or pdoc can show a warm and human side without always being so analytical. We are all human, and we all crave acceptance and validation. I am a very attractive man. Didn't always think so, though, and still don't feel as attractive as other people seem to find me. It was only after years and years of people telling me so that I finally believed what I was hearing. It was always so refreshing to hear that someone had a crush on me or found me to be handsome and sexy. Of course, I would always find out after the fact when it was too late to go for a relationship. haha. But what I am saying is, if Cass is sexy and has a strong presence, and she is sitting there saying that she isn't, sometimes the obvious needs to be stated. We all need to believe in ourselves and feel beautiful, and sometimes we need the reassurance that indeed we are.
So as long as the pdoc is staying within his professional boundaries, I feel it is entirely appropriate for him to make statements like that. And Cass, I know it feels wonderful. Swim in it for a while, but don't let yourself drown. Keep it in perspective, and let your light shine! Peace and love.
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