Posted by Alan on May 12, 2000, at 21:37:16
In reply to How Well Do You Know Your Therapist?, posted by Kay on May 12, 2000, at 15:47:06
> No, this isn't a quiz.
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> I've recently started seeing a new therapist. (It's been about 10 years since I was in therapy, although I've been depressed and on various medications in the meantime.) The relationship I have with this therapist is different from the one I had with my first therapist.
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> We seem to spend a lot of time in more social conversation. I can't exactly complain about this because it's difficult for me to express my feelings and as long as I can steer the conversation away from me, I'm more comfortable. But somehow I feel like maybe we ought to be talking more about what's going on inside MY head if I expect to get anything out of therapy.
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> SO, HOW ABOUT IT? Do the rest of you guys know your therapist's family, hobbies, likes/dislikes in books, music, cars, animals? Not that I'm asking anyone to list them--I just want to know if you're on quite these same terms with your therapists.
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> Or is this just part of my social phobia . . .
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> Thanks, Kay
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I'd personally be out of there. Clear boundries, from my experience, allow one to feel mutual respect. They are doctors and as much as we would like them to be sometimes, just not friends.I got into trouble with a woman pdoc who shared what turned out to be entirely too much personal information with me (just her style she said) and I ended up having the worst crush on her and boy did that hurt in the end! I know that she had feelings for me even though she didn't say it - it's something you just sense. That was 5-6 years ago and I'm still partly getting over it.
This may not be your situation exactly but it demonstrates what can happen when this type of relationship gets out of balance. I'd hope that you could find someone that respected the relationship a little more...
Best wishes,
Alan
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