Posted by mary poppins on February 19, 2002, at 23:36:30
In reply to How Well Do You Know Your Therapist?, posted by Kay on May 12, 2000, at 15:47:06
> No, this isn't a quiz.
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> I've recently started seeing a new therapist. (It's been about 10 years since I was in therapy, although I've been depressed and on various medications in the meantime.) The relationship I have with this therapist is different from the one I had with my first therapist.
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> We seem to spend a lot of time in more social conversation. I can't exactly complain about this because it's difficult for me to express my feelings and as long as I can steer the conversation away from me, I'm more comfortable. But somehow I feel like maybe we ought to be talking more about what's going on inside MY head if I expect to get anything out of therapy.
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> SO, HOW ABOUT IT? Do the rest of you guys know your therapist's family, hobbies, likes/dislikes in books, music, cars, animals? Not that I'm asking anyone to list them--I just want to know if you're on quite these same terms with your therapists.
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> Or is this just part of my social phobia . . .
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> Thanks, KayHi Kay,
I can appreciate your post. I have been in therapy for four years and I am just now starting to really trust my therapist. My biggest thing I tell him is that I want him to be more real, not a robot. I tell him that all the time.. he said to me the other day that he will try to be more "real" around me. I ask him questions about his life.. probably ones I really shouldn't be asking.. but hey...lol. anyway I tell him that even though he is an educated man .. he still is in fact a man.. and also a human being. they still have a life as you and me.. kids, spouses, flat tires, over sleep, marital problems and sometimes they don't feel like going to work either.. and I personally would have someone who lives in reality, try to help me be in reality.. hope this helps you! Good Luck! :o)
Wendy
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