Posted by CarolAnn on February 10, 2000, at 15:00:12
In reply to living with someone who is bi-polar/peter pan, posted by kathleen on February 10, 2000, at 13:15:14
CamW is right, the psychiatrist needs to know what is going on, and can also tell you the best ways to be supportive.
My advise is this: BE supportive, tell your boyfriend you will stand by him and try to help him, BUT...set a firm deadline by which he must be actively trying to help himself, and stick by it! Otherwise, he will keep stringing you along with promises that he is "going to do better...". You don't want to waste too much of your life on someone who won't even try, it's not worth it, and you will regret everything you missed in life.
Along with the deadline, tell him that if at any point he slips back into his old ways and stops trying, he gets exactly ONE more chance. Make sure that you tell him these things in a way that he will definitely know that you mean business. For example: if there are specific plans that would need to be made in order for you to leave him, outline for him exactly *how* and *what* you are going to do if he does not comply with the above, if you do end up having to leave him. Please don't waste years of your life hoping he will change, if he hasn't changed by the time he asks for a SECOND chance, he never will, don't even bother giving a second chance. CarolAnn
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