Posted by Renee N on January 9, 2000, at 1:29:44
In reply to Re: Anger...and other Emotions that take over you., posted by Renee N on January 9, 2000, at 1:19:34
> > great responses. Noa, how do these specialists suggest ADHD people deal with anger? practise and use self-talk?
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> > Sometimes I wonder why is it the emotion anger that people so commonly have problems with? Is it because of the danger of someone acting on anger?
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> > I notice that many different emotions or even ideas can take control of my life for a few days at a time.
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> > Sometimes, I believe, it's almost like a seizure.
> > they seem triggered, like anger, by a small event, and then, spontaneously, it goes away.
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> > For example, for a three day period recently, I could do nothing but think about how bad a father my brother is. My brain would not let me not think about this. Of course, during this period, I was able to find ample evidence to prove this idea right; although in reality, he is a very decent father.
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> > I have learnt not to act on these 'seizures', and often feel very guilty afterwards for believing the things I do when they happen.
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> > Anyone else experience anything like this? Or any ideas about what to do when this happens? All insights appreciated, Janice.
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> Janice, have you discussed this with your psychiatrist, therapist or doctor? I'm no expert, but it could be signs of OCD or just the ruminations of a depressed person.
> Cognitive-behaviorial therapy teaches how to progress from negatively unrealistic self talk to more helpful reality based self talk. I'm ADD and/or depressed(I think dysthymic) and I know I have constantly talked to myself in my head my whole life. When I first was confronted with the idea that my problems may be not only ADD, I realized how much of my self talk is negative; and then, when I started reading the book by Burns, Feeling Good:the New Mood Therapy, I realized it wasn't just negative, but also only my own distorted views. Others may not see me the same way. I haven't finished the book, but I highly recommend at least taking a look at it. I must say that I believe that the drugs are a more immediate relief for depression, but that the ideas presented in this book could help anyone, depressed, or not, to feel better about themselves and to learn things they can actually DO to help themselves become more emotionally healthy.As usual, I forgot somethong I wanted to say. I am the daydreamy, absentminded professor, ype of ADHD. I am not hyper. I believe we see more outward directed anger from those with more hyperactivity and impulsivity. I am not easily angered at others(Okay, I do swear at other drivers when they can't hear me!), but I WAS often angry at myself for the pathetic ADD type blunders I make. Since being on ADs and reading Feeling Good..., I am trying to direct that anger at the ADD rather than at me. I have a long way to go with this. I also am learning that every little blunder doesn't need so much of my attention, time and energy, since I probably and seeing it throughblack rather than rose colored glasses.
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