Posted by Dee on September 30, 1999, at 0:19:50
In reply to Re: Not jumping, posted by Bob on September 29, 1999, at 23:20:02
I was teacher once, for a fifth grade foreign-language class in a ghetto in europe. I was at the time studying mathematics at the university, and naively thought I could make some ez currency. I lasted for a day.
I take ADD any day over twenty five twelve year olds.
On a more serious side, I think love is overrated. We are expecting these overwhelming emotions that we see in daytime television and commercials, then feel there's something wrong with us when we cannot live up to these unrealistic standards.
I settle for mutual respect, honesty and friendship in a relationship -- If a can ever find it. Been looking for a long time.I am working on a book that Imentioned up in the recommended reading post. 'My lover, myself' by David Kantor, Ph. D. I got that when the failure of my previous relationship hit me, and I just couldnt comprehend what went wrong. The love was there, mutual as far as I could tell; we both agreed that the sex was about the best we've had, and I was putting down lots of work to make things work, and not to allow any of my irrationality to start messing things up for us. We constructed this castle in spain so well that we surely thought it would last - but down it cam sooner than we could say that we'd always be together.
So I got the book. Here are some of the chapters: The birth, death and rebirth of desire; the Myth of perfect love, the imperfect love; the dark side of love...
I actually found answers tosome of the questions that I've been puzzled by for all my life, like why is it that if I love somone, at times I can only powerlessly watch myself push that person away.The damn thang is hardcover, and I had to cough up twenty five dollars to get it, but I am glad I did. should be easy to found, I got mine in Shakespeare & Co on Broadway @ Astor Place. Lost in a relationship, I'd recommend it.
I don't think you should give up just because the flame burns lower than it used to. I think this is the time you two give a little more of yourselves, have a talk and redefine your relationship. And dig in what's down there in the rectory of your lust, maybe you find something that can flare those flames up again ;o)
Good Luck
Dee
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