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Posted by Phil on February 14, 2014, at 11:12:06
you have to find where your pain is hiding. therapist, phil i want you to pick people that have hurt you or made you angry. every week you will read one to me. i had 6, not bad. mother..alcoholic, 2 ex-gf's i don't remember the others but my father was last because i didn't even know him. my mother divorced him when i was 5. my mother said he could turn anything down except temptation.
per my t's instruction, at the top of each page write, god guides my hand to help me write what i must write. everyone got 2-3 pages. deadline approached. sunday morning, coffee cigarettes and pain. I wrote 8 pages of tear stained paper and i was out for the day. who knew where i held that pain. he remarried and my brothers met her and liked her. after my father died she wrote me a ten page letter to tell me about my father. on the first page she said he wanted to write this but was so weak from cancer. i thought another excuse. it's filed away and i'll never read it. your brain changes when theres trauma at age 5 and younger. gee wonder where my bipolar came from.
Posted by Phillipa on February 14, 2014, at 17:25:39
In reply to where is your pain hiding?, posted by Phil on February 14, 2014, at 11:12:06
Phil sounds like the exercise your therapist had you do. Was good for you. So many kids today are hurt both by death & divorce. Sorry you had to go through this. Phillipa
Posted by rjlockhart37 on February 20, 2014, at 0:42:32
In reply to Re: where is your pain hiding? » Phil, posted by Phillipa on February 14, 2014, at 17:25:39
my psychologist made me do similar things, and it just seemed so silly to take the pain of people laughing at me, reject, single out, everything.....feeling worthless....i have diffrent ego's, and they all help with dealing with the pain, it's not exactly a split personality but the trama was what created them to deal with the pain....
a good way to express pain is through good company....people you know best, or just trusted people you know you can tell your pain to them and not be judged or looked down on.....
all that stuff where have to awnser question on people who hurt you, and what did you feel, and i can't stand it....it's like intellectizing something that can't be intellectized, it's a part of the heart....
anyways, yes, one way you can deal with pain, is through spirituality....there are many forms of release, spiritual healing, all that new age stuff....but in my personal relm it's jesus christ and god, but not everyone is with that....so there are other spirituality doctrines that could help, help you reach a point of serenity....
hang in there phil...
Posted by alexandra_k on February 21, 2014, at 21:51:41
In reply to Re: where is your pain hiding?, posted by rjlockhart37 on February 20, 2014, at 0:42:32
My pain isn't as bad as it used to be - but I think it is important for me to reconnect with it sometimes. I think it helps me feel less angry towards others. More tolerant of them. Kinder towards them. Gentler somehow.
Sometimes, anyway.
Othertimes... Reconnecting with my pain gets me feeling depressed.
Hang in there, you.
Posted by Phil on February 22, 2014, at 12:59:01
In reply to Re: where is your pain hiding?, posted by rjlockhart37 on February 20, 2014, at 0:42:32
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l that stuff where have to awnser question on people who hurt you, and what did you feel, and i can't stand it....it's like intellectizing something that can't be intellectized, it's a part of the heart....
inner child work, when it became known, was the butt of jokes(still is). i'd like to ask them, tell me how you were raised and let's compare notes.
the kid inside suffered tremendous neglect. there was no fun. you lived on mixed messages and horrifying situations alone. i spent most of my precious years scared to f*ck*ng death.
jesus-god never stopped by. but you must have faith. why? i'll have faith when i see you exist because as i look around this world and see children starving to death and a million other problems, this god does not impress me.
children of alcoholics teach themselves to duck and cover to survive. when they are 60 they realize that they have always ducked and covered because that's what they know.
the therapist asks you a lot of questions and you don't know. they start questioning the here and now. how does that make you feel? you don't know because you cut off feeling when you were ten. well you're older now, get over it(a good therapist would never say that.
you start going to acoa and it's a tremendous relief. the aa peeps across the hall burst out in laughter often. acoa people are not laughing even people in their 70s are still fighting ancient battles. give me bipolar I. i'd rather have it than to go through what i went through.
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