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Posted by Deneb on April 12, 2009, at 21:48:02
I just overheard my Dad talking to a friend over the phone long distance and he talked about how my sister was a Masters student and doing research in a hospital and I guess the friend asked my Dad what I was doing and he said I had graduated and was working.
I haven't graduated yet.
Posted by Bobby on April 12, 2009, at 22:08:50
In reply to I think my parents are ashamed of me, posted by Deneb on April 12, 2009, at 21:48:02
parents --and men in particular----are notorious for stretching the truth when talking with other parents. It's a contest and the prize goes to the biggest bragger. Life is not over yet and you may eclipse everyone----if it's only work and prestige you're looking for. It's never too late to make a great contribution to the world. Ask Grandma Moses.
Posted by Bobby on April 12, 2009, at 22:14:17
In reply to I don't think so! » Deneb, posted by Bobby on April 12, 2009, at 22:08:50
Posted by Dinah on April 13, 2009, at 8:16:52
In reply to I think my parents are ashamed of me, posted by Deneb on April 12, 2009, at 21:48:02
I can think of a few reasons he might say that. Maybe he didn't particularly want to continue that line of discussion, or maybe he isn't comfortable on the phone, so he just said whatever would close up the discussion without further explanation.
Maybe this would be a good time to explore your relationship with him, and find out his feelings yourself? Perhaps not by telling him you overheard him. But maybe you could talk to him about work and school. After that dialog gets opened up, you could tell him your concerns about having him think well of you.
Posted by SLS on April 13, 2009, at 8:24:43
In reply to I think my parents are ashamed of me, posted by Deneb on April 12, 2009, at 21:48:02
> I just overheard my Dad talking to a friend over the phone long distance and he talked about how my sister was a Masters student and doing research in a hospital and I guess the friend asked my Dad what I was doing and he said I had graduated and was working.
>
> I haven't graduated yet.
I like Bobby's explanation.You could just let it go.
If it is that important to you, I think you might want to know for sure. I would ask the question very directly to your father and ask him if he is embarrassed or ashamed of you. This could help broach a number of issues that have not been dealt with in the past regarding you illness and how your family feels about it. Enhancing communication is usually a good thing.
In the meantime, take a good look around you in cyberspace. You will notice that you are not alone in your struggles. There are actually medical names and diagnoses for those things that you must deal with as health issues. They are real, and not at all uncommon.
We, the not at all uncommon, recognize you for who you are and the strengh you must certainly possess to have survived this long. That you did not graduate is a consequence of the severity of illnesses you suffer from. My IQ is pretty high. However, my mental illness prevented me from graduating college. Personally, I think that you are in good company.
:-)
- Scott
Posted by Phillipa on April 13, 2009, at 13:00:26
In reply to I think my parents are ashamed of me, posted by Deneb on April 12, 2009, at 21:48:02
Deneb agree with others. Wasn't aware you weren't continuing school. But who says you can't continue later? I was 38 when finished school. So getting work under your belt first will possibly lead you in another direction. Who knows? Phillipa
Posted by Kath on April 13, 2009, at 13:11:54
In reply to I think my parents are ashamed of me, posted by Deneb on April 12, 2009, at 21:48:02
Hi Deneb, it must have hurt & maybe have been a shock to hear your Dad say that.
Some really good comments from the others here.
(((you)))
luv, Kath
Posted by SLS on April 14, 2009, at 6:52:30
In reply to I think my parents are ashamed of me, posted by Deneb on April 12, 2009, at 21:48:02
How are you doing today?
I had thought to think that you might want to think a thought that people thought to think about you today.
What do you think?
- Scott
Posted by Deneb on April 14, 2009, at 11:29:18
In reply to Re: I think my parents are ashamed of me » Deneb, posted by SLS on April 14, 2009, at 6:52:30
Thanks for all your replies. I think maybe my Dad just didn't want to discuss things further and explain why I haven't gotten my degree yet.
Thanks for thinking out me. :-)
I don't think my Dad is ashamed of me.
Pdoc and I talked about it a bit today. She thinks I should talk to my Dad more. She thinks I am afraid of getting close to my Dad for fear of getting hurt.
I don't know about that. She really seems to think that my becoming attached to Dr. Bob has something to do with my Dad.
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