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Posted by linkadge on February 5, 2007, at 19:27:49
I am under so much stress. My father had the stroke, he is going in for surgery soon, I am in the middle of midterms at school and I am barely passing. I just get further and further behind, and the hole grows larger.
I can barely get a few hours of sleep at night, and I am anxious all day.
I need a miracle, but I don't think one is in sight.
The world won't slow down, it just keeps going on.
Well, thanks for listening.Linkadge
Posted by zenhussy on February 5, 2007, at 21:05:25
In reply to All I can do is cry, posted by linkadge on February 5, 2007, at 19:27:49
sorry we've no words of wisdom or comfort Linkadge
miracles can happen, often not in the form we're expecting or hoping for, but a miracle nonetheless....
fingers crossed for a miracle your way Linky
Posted by TexasChic on February 5, 2007, at 21:13:21
In reply to All I can do is cry, posted by linkadge on February 5, 2007, at 19:27:49
I'm so sorry you're having such a hard time. Either of those things alone are stressful, but together??? If you're really afraid you're going to flunk out or if the stress is just too much, go talk to a counseler at school. You may be able to get your tests postponed or maybe just get another chance on those classes without a failing grade. But if worse comes to worse & you do fail some classes, you CAN make them up. I've done it. Its not the end of the world. Just do the best that you can right now and then later you can work on repairing things. There's ALWAYS a way to to fix it when it comes to college. People aren't perfect! So don't expect yourself to be. You have to allow yourself to be less than perfect. Let me now how it goes.
-T
Posted by TexasChic on February 5, 2007, at 21:25:47
In reply to All I can do is cry, posted by linkadge on February 5, 2007, at 19:27:49
I just wanted to add I've had problems in college and later found out if I had just gone to someone and told them what was going on I could have made things alot easier for myself. And in college it can be really frustrating, you may have to go through 5 or 6 different people but you can usually get help if you're persistent. A serious illness in your immediate family is a legitimate excuse. Please go talk to someone tomorrow or asap.
-T
Posted by ElaineM on February 5, 2007, at 21:57:24
In reply to Re: All I can do is cry, posted by TexasChic on February 5, 2007, at 21:25:47
Linkage, I don't know you but it sounds like your going through something horrible. No wonder you are crying :( Strokes are hard for, not only the individual, but also the family, to deal with. I helped care for a family member who had a stroke, so I can understand a little of what you may be feeling, and fearing.
As far as your mid-terms, Texaschic is right. Get an official note from your T (if you have one), or an MD can do it (your own, or at your school's Medical Clinic). Exams, test, papers (anything) can be deferred. Sometimes if you speak to the prof. directly (or the TA) they have a certain amount of leeway in moving around deadlines, without having to do the "official" process. If your courses start to look beyond saving and you don't want to try, then (with one of the professionals on board) there are usually still [paper-]ways to save your GPA. The procedures are daunting, but they are there for reasons, and MANY students use them. Do not feel bad if you have to. You have a very legitimate reason. And the school has people to help you with it all...
Call and ask for an appointment with an academic counsellor (the ones who'd help you pick majors, or make sure you complete degree requirements and whatnot) and get them on board right away. They'll help you with options, deadlines, and procedures. And they are used to these requests being made by students in emotional or physical turmoil -- they will be able to hold whatever you tell them. (I've done this whole process myself at my university when I crashed and burned mid-year, a few years ago, due to AN. And again was helped out by my prof and TA when I was dealing with a physical illness this year, so I could finish my final course) [I know each school's different but I'd think each would have somewhat similar versions of the same]
Be with your family. That's always more important. It's too hard to get through seperately. I wish I could say more to help you cause your post touches something in me.
Sending your father well-wishes, and you strength (and sleep).
((((Linkage))))) [sorry, I hope you don't hate hugs]
B-love, Elaine
Posted by Phillipa on February 5, 2007, at 22:46:20
In reply to Re: All I can do is cry, posted by ElaineM on February 5, 2007, at 21:57:24
Ah Link didn't the medicine help? I agree with the other posters your family is more important get that note and be with them (((((Link)))))). Don't care if you like hugs or not remember you're one of my adopted Sons. Love Phillipa
Posted by DannaB on February 5, 2007, at 23:18:16
In reply to All I can do is cry, posted by linkadge on February 5, 2007, at 19:27:49
Just try to get through day by day. The midterms will be over soon enough. My best wishes to you.
Posted by Meri-Tuuli on February 6, 2007, at 4:38:48
In reply to Re: All I can do is cry, posted by DannaB on February 5, 2007, at 23:18:16
I'm sorry things are bad link and you're feeling like this. I know all too well the pressures of school and bad things happening in the family. Can you take a semester off and re-start in the fall? I did that once and it helped alot.
Perhaps try to let your professors know whats happening? Will they be kind? Can you pospone some of your classes?
I'm not very good at these things, but we're here for you link, let us know how you're doing. I really want to help, but what can I do?
Kind regards
Meri
Posted by Jo U.K on February 6, 2007, at 7:07:33
In reply to All I can do is cry, posted by linkadge on February 5, 2007, at 19:27:49
So sorry to hear about your dads illness, hopefully the surgery will help him? Just keep plugging at it Link, bad stuff doesnt have to last forever, I agree that you should talk to your tutors - you wont be the first to have had problems that affect their work, they may be able to help you. No, there's no miracles, but there are people willing to listen and do what they can.
Keep trying.
Regards, Jo
Posted by fayeroe on February 6, 2007, at 8:54:10
In reply to All I can do is cry, posted by linkadge on February 5, 2007, at 19:27:49
Posted by happykat on February 6, 2007, at 11:59:28
In reply to All I can do is cry, posted by linkadge on February 5, 2007, at 19:27:49
linkadge,
Let your professors know what's going on. They might be able to help you out. I had a rough spell in college and almost all my professors were willing to work with me once they knew my circumstances.
Sleep is really important when you're stressed out. Can your doc give you something to help you sleep?
I hope your dad's surgery goes well. I'm keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
Regards,
HK
Posted by Jay on February 8, 2007, at 18:39:09
In reply to All I can do is cry, posted by linkadge on February 5, 2007, at 19:27:49
Posted by Kath on February 10, 2007, at 19:10:03
In reply to All I can do is cry, posted by linkadge on February 5, 2007, at 19:27:49
Hi L,
So sorry - I hope that maybe by now you're feeling a lot better.
My love to you & your family.
:-) Kath
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